Nearly 9 out of 10 folks who do not attend church (87%) said in a recent poll from Barna Group Research said that the term 'judgmental' accurately describes present-day Christianity. This is one of the big three--the three most widely held negative perceptions of Christians (along with being antihomosexual and hypocritical)--which we will discuss in upcoming blogs.
To put this in perspective, when you introduce yourself to a neighbor, and you mention your faith, chances are he or she will think you are judgmental.
Equally alarming was the stat that 53% of young Christians (16-29) believe that the label judgmental accurately fits present-day Christianity.
All of this goes to show that in our world today, how we communicate is as important as what we communicate.
Are Christians Judgmental?
What defines being judgmental. Can you disagree with someone and not be judgmental?
It is interesting that being judgmental in our society has come to mean disagreeing. If you don't agree with me on something then you are being judgmental. If you are judging me then you don't/can't love me.
I have a 10 year old daughter that does lots of things, thinks lots of things, and has attitudes about things that I don't necessarily agree with but yet I love her.
I don't think disagreeing is judging. Judgment happens when my disagreement causes me to not love you or hinders my care for you.
It also interesting how many have created a Jesus in their minds that does not seem to be the Jesus from scripture.
This Sunday I teaching on John 8 where Jesus is presented with a woman caught in adultery. He gives a great response..."He who is without sin among you, let him be the first to throw a stone at her". People in the crowd sober up and one by one the stones hit the ground.
Now that is a great picture of Jesus--the non-judging one.
But if you read further, He then says to her, 'go your way, and sin no more'. Interesting!
He views her lifestyle choice, calls it sin, and exhorts her to stop.
Jesus does judge her sin but then again, he is the only one that can because he was the only one without sin.
If you read my first post, I wrote some things that annoyed me. Those were intentional because i wanted to see how long it would take before someone would judge me for my thoughts. Read the first response (anonymous). I was called judgmental right off the bat by someone that has never met me. The moment you think you are humble...guess what--you are not. It is also hard to make a judgment about someone without being judgmental.
We all judge. We all disagree with others over issues. The question is, can i disagree with someone and yet still love them.
i understand why people think Christians are judgmental. I am trying to change that perception to folks around me. Can i love those that i don't necessarily agree with?
I believe we can and i believe that is truly loving a person. It is easy to love those we like and that are like us but what about those who are hard to like. Can you love them?
Leave the judging to God for He is the only one with the credentials to do it.
Instead, love someone fiercely that is hard to love...you might be amazed at the effect.
Love to hear your thoughts!